It is my BUSINESS 🚶🚶🚶

 it is

I'd invest my time, energy, resources and know how to give you exactly what you want, sometimes exceeding your expectations and you'd be pricing me as if I am selling pepper or apple😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒.

Today's blog post is as a result of my conversation with one of my friends. And so I have decided to put words out.

To all entrepreneurs please learn to say NO to certain jobs🙅🏼‍♂🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♂🙅🏼‍♀. You cannot be doing a job with a profit of just five hundred naira (500) or one thousand (1000) this is crazy. If you do this you are demeaning your value.


It is your business, your dream, your source of livelihood and I want to believe you had a vision on where and how big you want it to grow. 🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀


It is time to flush some annoying clients/customers, yes flush them. If you know the worth of your business then don't settle for less🙅🏼‍♂🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♂. Do not go for little all in the name of "at all at all man must get job" 😒😒😒🙄🙄🙄 What's that? Trust me I did all of that and it got me nowhere 😒😒😒😒Infact I was going in circles until I decided to give myself brain.

Who says you won't get customers? If you are good at what you do, someone who's gonna appreciate your handwork will  stresslessly come to you.

I remembered when I was doing rubbish jobs I kept doing it cos I didn't wanna loose the small customers I had and I felt the small money coming in was something at least, until one day I charged a lady 10k for a very simple straight gown and she paid stresslessly 😱😱😱🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀. I just didn't wanna scream in front of her but e reach to scream 🤦🏼‍♀😱😱😱😱.
Ha, ha😱😱😱😱😱🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀ this aunty gave me 10k with out pricing for a simple gown, no design, no nothing. Anhan! I thought it was film, she collected the gown, gave me money and was like OMG! Wendy you did a nice job this is so neat. She asked if she could try it on. I said she could. She wore it, came in front of my mirror and was admiring herself. "This is exactly what I want thanks", she beamed.
"Thanks", I said, happy that she appreciated my work.

She went further saying "I saw some of your works on Instagram. I was skeptical but decided I'd try anyways, after all I've made something like this for 15k and I got bullshit". "Keep it up, you sow neatly", she concluded. I smiled, saw her off to the gate, came back to my house and was still in shock😱🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀😱😱.


That day I said to my self Choi Wendy you've been a foolish fool😂🤣🤣🤣🤣, see as you don dey rubbish your business since 🤣🤣🤣😂😂 dey collect 2k,3k with abeg😡😡😡😡. Kai the thing pain me.

That was the first time I made something for her and ever since then I became her customer, infact not just hers but also her friends she referred to me.


I also wanna advice you run away from customers who know your worth but feel without them you are nothing. They feel if they don't give you job, you no go chop😒😒😒.

I rather stay for days with no job than do a job with a profit of  500 or 1k.😒🙄😒 And if you are him or her don't cross my path😒😒😒😒.

May God bless the works of our hands and send us the right people we need for our businesses to grow. Amen

really so annoying how people will help us choose a price on a service we are rendering to them😡😡😡😡... It's really irritating.

The Unforseen Journey 😂

Yeah so you think marriage is like all the fantasies or the Telemondo and Zee world movies that you watch🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣? Common, relationship is not even like what we expect it to be talk more of marriage 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣.


You better don't go and marry with the hope that you'd be ATI, and your husband will be Yash😂🤣😂😂😂🤣😂.
You know that fantasy when he walks up to you asking you to be his girlfriend all those butterflies in your stomach, 🙄🙄🙄truth is before or should I say after 6month into the relationship e fit no be like that 🤦🏼‍♀🤦🏼‍♀🤦🏼‍♀Mostly when he sees the mother of his children in you. By that I mean mostly when he wanna marry you, he'd expect you to have sense and know what marriage entails.
Oftentimes because of our expectations or lack of knowledge about what marriage entails we go into it expecting to see a little bit of zeeworld and telemondo.

Don't expect him to stay home all day making sweet love to you, infact that won't happen so often after your honeymoon🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭, you know why? Uncle has to work to put food on the table😂🤣🤣🤣😂🤣🤣🤣. But come oooo that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He sure does.

Truth is there's a lot of unforseen things that's going to happen in your marriage. When you start seeing all these things don't for a seconds think he doesn't love you or he has changed. Some certain kinda reality has dawned on him, some other things like responsibility also. Don't put pressure or complain, support him, defend him, love him and always pray for him and your home..🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼.
God will help us all.

Sorry for my late post I went Into my inner chambers, lol called my prayer room😁.
See you guys on Tuesday.

The Smart Ones

So you guys become really close doing almost everything together, as a lady you are crazy about him and he isn't saying anything and you've not seen him with a babe, cos he really gives you his attention, he cares for you but he's not saying anything like I want you to be my woman or she's always with you giving you the green card, doing what a girl lover does dor her man, you know like care for you, check up, brings you meal, infact una fit Don deyh 😘 😘 😘 and all of that yet when you told her you liked her and wants her to be your woman she said let's be friends for now.

Don't think these things happen to only the ladies it happens to the guy as well. Infact I think the rate at which ladies do these things this days due to greed is alarming. Sometimes these ladies could be in a serious relationship but because of what they are benefiting they'd rather play along with you praying they don't get casted.🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂 Orishirishi

If he is all around you doing what your man is supposed to do and yet he hasn't asked you out or anything give yourself brain and distance yourself 🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂, if you cannot ask him so what exactly are we doing. I heard ladies say they started a relationship by helping the guy ask which isn't bad but for me I think it reduces your respect. Don't get me wrong I said for me😒😒😒.

He hasn't come out straight to you on what you guys are, but he is enjoying the benefit of being your man and because you are madly in love with him you keep praying and waiting he says something, you keep hanging around infact you've marked him as your territory. Every guy that comes to you wouldn't stay because the other guy is everywhere all around you and they'd all feel you guys are dating but in the real sense na only you deyh date am.😂🤣😂😂😂🤣😂😂😂😂😂 The annoying thing about some of these guys when you bring it up they'd tell you but I told you I am not ready for a relationship..😒🙄🤣 which means they totally know what they are doing 🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀they are smart ass niggis😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂, seriously but I thought we are couple😓😭😭😭😭

You see for the ladies it takes so long till it Dawn on them that they have been wasting their time and it hurts so badly and this is because when a woman loves sometimes they love carelessly.

Ok let me not beat around the bush so much if he doesn't come out rightly to tell you what he want please do not get so attached to him, infact run🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂, because he's just gonna stand on the way for your man to enter yet he's not gonna walk through the door🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀very smart dudes. They prolly using you to pass time, forget or try letting go a heart break or so while you on the other hand is loving up so badly😓😓😓😓😢😢😢😢

Guys if you ask her out and she says let's be friends please move on🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏽‍♂🚶🏽‍♂🚶🏽‍♂ to the next lady that you like, I mean serious minded guys ooooo😒😒😒😒😒.


Let's stop putting our selves through unnecessary heart break. If you have to do it the old school way, let it be. Let him officially ask you out and you'd officially say yes and they'd know you guys are officially dating. Let's stop giving them the power to keep messing us up. Guys if you officially ask her out and she officially says let's be friends be her friend officially🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭 and go date another lady😒😒😒 do not stick around and be hoping she wee comman meet you and say ok I am ready for you now🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♂🙅🏼‍♂🙅🏼‍♂ date another lady and be happy😁😁

Also remember an official relationship can still be broken but at least you know you was in a relationship.

May God not let us come across time wasters in our life. Amen

I don't like his job😏🙄

So You are ashamed of what he does but not ashamed of the money he makes from what he does, that he spends on you. Isn't that silly?😒. So I asked a couple of people if they liked the kind of job their partner does. Shockingly, while a lot of the guys don't mind, most of the ladies said no. Then I asked this particular lady "Does he support you in his little way?" and she said "Ha the guy is trying o,  just that he stresses so much building blocks. And its a dirty job"
"So you prefer he steals or uses your pants or pad to do money ritual 😂🤣🤣🤣😂😂?" , I inquired further, rather sarcastically. "God forbid!", she retorted.

Now I asked a guy "What does your babe do?", He said, "she's a stripper". "Hmmmm🤦🏼‍♀ok do you trust her?" I pressed further. He said he trusts her just that he doesn't like the job. I asked "Can you pay all her bills if she stops the job?". His reply was "I don't think I can handle such responsibility". Yet you don't like her job.

Let's be honest with ourselves here. I do not think any job is embarrassing so long as it pays bills and it is legit. It is better to work with your hands for your daily bread than begging, stealing or doing ritual. And the truth is, not all of us will do white collar jobs.

I remember when I was so into my cleaning business. I couldn't afford to pay  too many workers so I did most of the jobs myself. One day, while on a job, this cute guy stopped by in his car and called me. I can be annoyingly unfriendly on a good day but when it comes to work I am the friendliest lady 🤪🤪Omo! Rising from the gutter i was cleaning, with my dirty gloves and all, I went to meet him. Who knows, this might just be an opportunity for my next job. Well, so i thought.
On getting close to the car, the next thing "Mr Cute" said was "Why is a pretty girl like you doing such a dirty job?".  Kai the thing pain. Just this once i tried to be polite, thinking it might bring me better fortune.

I said to him smiling "With due respect sir,  because this is how I make ends meet." Then i added "With all the money you think you have, you cannot pay my bills😒😊" .   Oh my gosh! The guys face turned purple 🤣😂😂😂😂he wanted to die. My last remark really pain am 😂🤣🤣🤣 "What's that supposed to mean?" He tried to fight back. "I can feed you and your family. Rubbish. Bullshit" 🤣😂😂😂😂I already achieved what I wanted so I went back to continue my work with rest of the boys, a smile of triumph on my face.

If what you do pays majority of your bills please keep at it no matter how little it is. It is better than stealing, prostituting, ritual, scam and all what not.

Have a great weekend folks!

"Too Busy"

I get so upset when i hear stuffs like "i am so busy",  because i know that no matter how busy you are you can always creat time for whats important or wetin hungry you.

Had this guy who was crushing on me sometime ago. But i didn't  have time for him. Sincerely i felt i was truly busy. I was working then. 

There was also this colleague of mine who kinda liked me, or should i say was tryna flirt with me. One day during lunch, he just appeared at my desk unannounced and uninvited. "Lets go and have lunch", he said, with a sheepish smile on his  face. Who no like awoof 🤪🤪?! Omo i touched up my face and entered front seat😁 (ladies you know that feeling na🤣😂😂😂😂😂, madam of the motor car...Lol). Anyways, we got to Shoprite Ikeja, ate and had ice cream and went back to work. The next day he sent me a mail asking if we could have lunch again. Guess what my response was. "Sorry dear, i am kinda busy." But when i saw him at the mall a few minutes later it dawned on me that there was nothing like i am busy.

It is either you don't like the person or the person isn't so dear or important enough  for you to spare a fraction  of your time for them.

If he or she cared they would reach out.  If he or she  loves you they will create time for you.  Do not get stupidly blinded as to giving useless excuses on his or her behalf. I hear ladies say,  "he's busy."  "We spoke  two days ago", "We spoke last week", "i guess work is so tideous" 🤣😂😂😂😂😂

Most of these guys i see in malls and eateries 🤣😂🤣 no be me go tell fada say him bear bear deyh burn😂🤣🤣🤣. When you have small change she was always around you but at the moment you are low in cash, all of a sudden you haven't seen her for two weeks and her excuse is that she's busy🤦🏽‍♀🤦🏽‍♀

Uncle lemme ask you: How did she create time for you when you had small change to buy her lunch and gifts? I don't wanna believe your sense is taking so long in the toilet 😒😒😒.

Aunty he was all around you when he was still trying to make you his babe. Infact you complain of no air to breath 🤣😂😂😂😂 "in chrisbrown voice" na him they chase you before but all of a sudden he's become so busy to even call you, talk more of seeing you,  or he calls when he likes or when he wants yansh🤦🏽‍♀🤦🏽‍♀🤦🏽‍♀🤦🏽‍. Sister its either he has realised you have a thick skull with nothing inside or he has gotten what he wants😔😔😞😞.


Don't get me wrong oooo , people can actually be busy ,  but in all that business they create time to call or see that special somebody in their life. I am busy i am busy when a bigger opportunity comes what happens is we create time so as to grab that opportunity.

Busy is a myth to me. People make time for the things that are important to them.


See you guys later
Much love
Ego😘😘😘

The Secret Provider

He comes back home late. Sometimes we don't even see him before bed time, then he leaves very early the next morning. Not understanding how hard daddy works to provide for us i would ask my mum "Mummy, why is daddy never around?" She would reply calmly "nne cos he has to work so he can have money to take care of you. I'd hiss and walk away. I really never understood what kind of work dad does that makes him leave the house early and come back home late.

"Mom, I haven't paid my school fees"
Mom: yeah I know. Not just you, your brothers too. But I'll come and pay all your fees tomorrow.

"Dad why do you always come back home late?"
Dad: I'm sorry kids there's been so much work to do these days and the traffic is crazy. Sorry kids I am so tired and I have to go to bed early cause Daddy has to be up early for work.

Daddy doesn't love us like mom does. He always wanna leave.

Mom: honey the kids haven't paid their fees, food stuffs is finished and the rent would expire in two weeks time.

Dad: Yeah I  had in mind to drop money for those yesterday but was too tired. I have the kids fees and money for the house keep. Please go to my bag you'll see two envelops, I wrote what each is for. Baby remind me today during my lunch time that I am supposed to pay rent so I can call the landlord and make the rent transfer.

Mom: thanks honey for all the care, for the sleepless nights just so you can provide for me and the kids..... We love you

Dad: Love you too baby

I wanna say a very big shout out to all the responsible dad's out there who have to work so hard to provide for their families, even when they know their absence hurts their kids but they have to do what they have to do to keep the family comfortable.

Mothers, kids of this generation are smarter and bolder. They speak up, unlike our time, when kids cant dare to express their displeasure to their parents. We should always let them know how much their dad loves them, let them know it is daddy who brings money for their fees and all those ice cream they lick and the new clothes they wear.

Even if you help your husband with some bills do not take his glory, let the kids know the role their dad plays, that way you will help them understand why he has to leave for work early and come back late and tired. If not these kids would build up their own walls around their dad...

My dad was the pillar of my family. Yeah mom helped out sometimes, but I understood how important his sleepless nights was for the family when he passed away.

He was "The secret provider" yet mom took all the credit cos when we want money for anything we go to her and she gives us. So we assumed it is hers not knowing what had transpired between mom and dad in our absence.

Moms, your job doesn't end at just bringing up the kids. Let them know the sacrifice their dad makes every day to make them have a comfortable home.

I dedicate this to every dad out there who put their families first and makes huge sacrifices to ensure that their families are comfortable. And to other dads who are not living up to their responsibilities, this is definitely time for a change.
I love you Dad... always.

Confused Fornicators😱

PIease i'm about to step on some people's toes.  But trust me my intentions are pure, I love you with my whole heart. I don't think everyone has the right to complain about cheating in their relationship. The only people who can complain about cheating are married couples.


The truth is, if we actually do the right things the rate of heart breaks and infidelity will reduce. Life they say is a teacher, but trust me when I say I wished I had to learn some things from other people's mistakes, rather than mine. Most of my own mistakes pierced my soul, but I thank God it shaped me to the woman I am today. I am not perfect, but God's grace is always sufficient and I intent to tap from it all the days of my life.

Ok so where were we? Ahan! let me give my own humble opinion on how to avoid hurts and heart breaks in relationships.

First of all, for me I think if you are not married you shouldn't assume the duties of a wife. Duties such as cooking, washing, sex/love making, representing him in events. You only represent your husband as two become one in his absence.

For the guys sex, sex and sex
Money** unless done willingly.

Ladies let me ask you before you started dating that guy who use to buy you bag? You, who does your toiletries? You, who gives you money for hair? You, who pays for your movies? You, you and you. Do not dump responsibility on a man who hasn't married you yet. That way you'd still be sane and in charge, you love him yeah, but with your head and heart. When you start having sex unconsciously you become a prostitute without even knowing. You sleep with him, he gives you money or you sleep with him when you ask for money he gives you paying you for your service and at this point If he doesn't give you unconsciously you become angry or upset because you feel because you are giving him your body he should give you whatever you ask aunty use your head. Then when you see him with another lady or you find out he is sleeping with another woman you become hurt, or guys when you find out she played you for your money you become heart broken. You have no right to feel that hurt because in the first place you weren't supposed to give your body and guys you wasn't supposed to give your money and if you both did that's trade by barter. Now you feel me🤦🏼‍♀😢.

If you are not married and having sex you guys are just confused fornicators. Let's do things right and we would see that the rate of heart break and all what not will reduce.
May God help us do not sin against our body. Amen

Marching Forward

Since my next post fell on March 1st, I wanna say, Happy new month to you all. Don't get discouraged if you haven't achieved anything yet, don't loose hope, we are just in the 3rd month of a new year, need I remind you that your story and life can change in just 5minites? Our timing and God timing isn't the same. Do not be wary for we are marching forward. God will make us the head and first always in all our endeavors.

And I speak and declare with God's given authority and power that in this month of March we will March forward in all that we do, we will posses our possessions, we will be fruitful in Jesus name. Amen.

From egogolden, we wish you a HAPPY NEW MONTH.