Revolutionary Protest

So today I was watching kakaaki on AIT and I was so upset. So one cannot come up with an idea to bring Nigeria to order with out been arrested. The CEO of Sahara reporter was arrested for wanting to do the right thing. Mr Omoyele Sowore was arrested for coming up with the revolutionary protest. In kakaaki new I love what the lawyer from ibadan said, constitutionally his protest ok so long as it's not violent.

I want to ask one question why do government get threatened when someone comes up to speak the truth? DSS arrested Mr Sowore for a video he uploaded that said allot relating to the unstable way of living, and other things that needs change in nigeria and viola he was arrested.🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂. Have they arrested all the people who stands as a threat to Nigeria and it's citizens? The herds men, all the politician looting the country? What have they really done? Misplaced priority, the leave what they are supposed to do and do another thing.

I know alot of people will come at me but I don't care. Let me ask how many celebrities supporting this revolutionary protest? How many? Why is it not trending like the busola and coza pastor matter? When an individual comes out for what will benefit the whole civilian it hardly trends, no celebrity talks about it on social media and do you know why? To me I feel it's because they are trying to protect their own interest. You don't matter to them.  They have the money to fly to any country of their choice when gbege happens and you that have been struggling to eat three (3) square meal can't afford the luxury, yet have refused to have sense.

Nigeria is lacking alot that I for one wants the president impeached from all he has said and done so far doesn't look like he has anything to offer us. The dreams of youth is being scattered, there's no job, there's no electricity, the roads are bad, accident happening, herds men terrorizing the nation, no security, the so called police men have becomed broad day light robbers, civilians don't even have freedom of speech anymore, you talk they arrested you and term you a terrorist mean while the real terrorist is out there walking and terrorizing freely.

It is time Nigerians stand up, but no they only use the small data they have to support issues with misplaced priority. Busola and coza pastor trended this much on the issue of rape and I applaud them👏👏👏👏👏👏. Why didn't they also make noise about the girl who was raped, or the priest that was killed, oh yeah they are not celebrities like them so obviously they won't loud it. The bad roads nko, the ditches, the insecurities, etc what am I even saying they don't apply those route or rather they ride big jeep trucks. Phew.

If are a Nigerian and still do not have enough sense to act right and pass reasonable judgment then you are a fool. These celebs are at an advantage, obviously the run shows for most of this politicians so what ever is happening they don't care. Dem no wan enter their bad book.

I am with Sowore on this peaceful revolutionary protest... who do you stand with?

Who is the right person,

Alot of time we ask this question over and over again and still haven't gotten an answer! Phew🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄how tiring.....

Phew the right person..,.. after asking myself this questions I didn't and couldn't get any answer. After trying alot of new things and bending some certain rules in the name of the right person I got to realise there really isn't anything like that. This is my own opinion and what I think, I'd love to know what you think in the comment below 👇

Back to the matter on ground. Who is the right person? Lemme ask you, are you the right person? If you can answer this question then you can answer the question on ground. Pastor Balaji of Hicc would always ask can you date you? Remember you can be very annoying, irritating, sometimes you act dumb and foolish etc do you think someone else can tolerate your shortcomings? If you feel someone should be able to manage some of your short comings maybe because he loves you or she loves you then I think you should do same. If you know you have flaws, have in mind others have flaws too. Thing is don't be foolish about it, know when go quit.

There isn't anything like "right person" or "perfect" when the person no be God. All you can do is get that unright person and brush him or her to suit you. I mean groom your man or woman, work on them and believe me the work isn't a one week or a one year work.

Have you ever asked why single ladies would prefer to date or be with a married man? It's because they have been worked on. Now what they don't know is how hard the woman has worked on him over time or how much energy and time she has invested in moulding him. Let's not be after the finished goods always. How about you mould someone mould that person you feel isn't right for you into what you want.

Note: in trying to mould do not be stupid about it. Don't stay in a wrong relationship where the guy is beating you and you'd say you'd mould him, he will stop 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂aunty he wee just  kee you, you better run.😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

There isn't no right person, mould that person into the right person that you desire. it's risky not to take risk.
Let's discuss this!
It's still your girl
Egogolden 😘😘😘😘

Motivating the motivator

Have you ever thought to yourself why it seems like some motivational speaker don't practice what they preach? Ok no let me rephrase, have you noticed that when you look at the lives of most of these speaker it's almost an opposite of what they say?


Some of them actually pretend to be what they are not but the real ones, the real motivator also need someone to motivate them.... It's not as if they don't practice what they preach but they have become so empty, that there nothing keeping them going anymore.

Imagine how exhausted youd be when you only pour out without refueling, this has gone beyond reading allot of books to be more knowledgeable in the motivating area of speciality, this has to do with motivation from other people, people who you motivate.


Let me use money as example 1: No matter how wealthy you think you are if you keep spending the money you have with out having any source of income to replace spent money, that money is going to finish and when it does what happens? You break down, you know why because you have been used to the loud spending kinda life that adjusting could either kill you or not.

Example 2: You are a strong woman who tells or preach to other ladies about standing up against domestic abuse by their husband and all of a sudden your husband starts beating you out of fraustration cos he lost his job and you don't know what to do, or should I say know how to apply what you've been teaching or preaching about.

Let's all not think all is always well with this people, let's not also forget they are human being. When I see some kinda scandal or hear some things about some motivational speakers I just pray they come out of what ever it is that's troubling them cos the truth is they are human like us and not God, instead of abusing or insulting them.on their pages or so we should learn to encourage them.


Haven't posted for a while, was over whelmed with the event I was planning, I felt loved and encouraged by some of the people who read my post. It got to the point where I'd always smile to myself telling myself I need to come back and continue from where I stopped.

In one of my conversation with one of my  friend whose also a blogger Oluoma, she said please can you start posting already, I have missed your posts but most importantly you motivate me to be consistent in mine... And I jokingly replied don't forget I also need a motivator. After 30mins it dawned on me that the words that came out jokingly actually came out from.my heart.


Let's never forget that even motivators needs to be motivated.
And oooooooooooo i wanna apologise for my inconsistency for these few weeks.
Love you guys as always.

Don't Be Unfortunate 🙄😏😋

I don't know why I am not a lawyer or a reporter 🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂. They'd say you can defend a useless point and be making sense, another will say the level at which you question things and people enh is enough to make them run for their lives😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣


What is wrong with some guys and ladies? Why have they decided to be unfortunate or should I say used by the devil? How can a lady have a male friend who has asked her to marry him and she says no, let's be friends or how can a guy have a female friend who he knows likes him and he likes her so much and he wouldn't tell her how much he feels about her? Why? Why? Why?😬😬😬😈😈😈👹👹👹 It is so annoying.


I went out recently and was hearing some ladies discussing. Infact one of the ladies said an old male friend almost jeopardized her marriage of one month. She's been close friend with the guy for almost 4years and he never said anything she liked him, gave him all the green,blue, black and white light so he could see her 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣but the otondo never said anything. So she decided to get a life. She started distancing, missing his calls and the guy didn't even bother to know why she put up the new attitude.


Two weeks after her marriage the unfortunate goat called while she was still in bed with her husband. She said "As I pick the call na shout I begin hear😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😀😀😀😁." The guy said "how can you get married and not tell me? You are so wicked, so heartless🤣😀😀😀😀😀😀." She said she was shocked.
Firstly, she left her matrimonial bed before an unfortunate fool puts her in trouble. She said she went to her sitting room and asked "who is this?" He told her and she was amazed... "like seriously" 😱😱😱😱🙄🙄🙄😏 she exclaimed. Then she got angry and didn't wanna argue so she told the guy "oh, well I am married now so please stay away."


You know me naw my gbegborun antenna just picked enough signal 😁😀😂😂😂 omo na him I go meet the ladies gisting.


Me: hi ladies sorry I erm was listening to your gist, forgive my manners my name is EGO and I am so interested in this gist cause guys can so be so annoying  and I asked the lady telling her story what her name was and she said korede.

Korede: some guys are not just annoying they are dump and act stupid. Ego that wasn't the end oooo, the fool kept calling till my husband got to know and even got familiar with the number cos I stopped picking his call.


Me: ouch korede that was a wrong move, you just gave him a reason to suspect you are having an affair with him or give him a reason to be curious.


Korede: what would I have done. I was so upset, I really liked him, I thought he was gonna come around when I left gradually but he didn't now he's talking love and how much he likes me and why I didn't tell him I was getting married. He had his chance and didn't use it, so what am I to do for him?


One of the other ladies by name Nosa asked so what now happened........


I'd continue in my next post. Lemme Goan read for exams 😘😘😘😘😘

Reason with me

Lol so I can't stop laughing, this reason with me really made me remember alot of things. Before I continue I'd like to apologise for not posting last week, it was due to an illness but I am fine now. Thank you for asking 😀😁😀😁😀😎😎😎.

So back to it, I personally don't just watch movie for he fun of it, same as music that's why I am not so current with most of the songs trending in Nigeria. But I must commend one of the p2 by name Rudeboy for this wonderful song he titled "Reason with me", and I'd also advice you to download it and watch the mp4.

Let us learn no to listen to every music that has no value or should I say music we learn nothing from, for me it's a waste of time,  a waste of data also. So long as the music has one or two things I can learn from it I'd gladly listen.


Now going by "reason with me" we saw how his girlfriend left him because to her him no get money😀😂😀😂🤣😁😁😁😀😁. That guy saying all girls love money, my friend will you shut up there🙄😏🙄😏🙄🙄. The difference between you and the guy in the short clip in that song is that Rudeboy in the music was hard-working, he has a dream, he has a vision, all he needed was time, he needed her to be patient and to believe in him. But you on the other hand you are just a lazy piece of s**t😏😏😏😏😏😏😏🙄🙄🙄 so hunku please don't compare yourself.

Ladies love money, they love comfort, the want to be secured, we know that, but some ladies believe in some guys, hard working guys with achievable vision. We ain't all stupid.

Guys go and hustle be hard-working don't sit down and play draft, or carry file around all in the name of job hunting. If you have been looking for a job for a long time without getting one, please give yourself a job. There's 1 million and 1 things to do legally and morally to make money, mostly in our country Nigeria.

Ladies, as for you trust me when I say we have almost the same power as the holy spirit when it comes to using our instinct to know a thing when used properly, you can tell when a guy is trying, you know when he is really working hard, you can tell if his future is bright🙄😏😏😏and please don't ask me how😀😁🤣🤣😂 cos I know that's the next thing one gel wee ask me😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

I am sure you saw the ending part of the reason with me story see enhhhh that thing dey pain die🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂trust me you don't wanna go through that pain. I am sure some ladies can relate when you see the guy who said please marry me and you were there trying to size him because you didn't think he has enough money to feed an extra mouth only for you to see pictures of him and his new bride😂😁😂😀😁😂😀😂😁😂😁trust me, iyaf do me and i beat my self up for months 😂😁😁😁😀😀😀. Thank God I know better.

Ladies if you are with a guy whose working hard, believe in him and support him in your own little way and don't leave him, but if he is lazy please walk out of the relationship. God will give us discerning spirit to know when to stay and when to leave so that we don't miss his gift/blessing. Amen

Let's support ourselves

So I have come to realise that some of our so-called friends hardly support our mission. They'd never help you market your stuffs, they'd never help you tell another friend about what you do but they'd always want you to dash them what you sell and that is so annoying😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡.

As in I literally had to blast one who was claiming friend. she was wicked and wanted to run me down. How can you always want me to give you items I sell for free🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍? You've never bought from me, when other people wanna buy same thing that I sell she'd rather prefer to advertise other people's products yet come to me for free stuffs. I blasted her that day and she never spoke to me again and I loved it. That was how I flushed every negative person around me.

What are we friends for if you cannot support me and I support you? Funny thing is I support people around me even if we do the same thing. I believe that as big as the sky is that's how big our market is.

Some people go say I no wan give them my strategies make them no sell pass me 🤣😂😂😂😂😂 See this mumu. Weda you give them  or not, na God himself dey elevate person 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂 Ote!


Now to everyone running some kinda business or hustle. If your friends don't support you in what you do please ex-friend them. Leave them as acquaintance they ain't adding value to you in any way.

In conclusion let's keep doing what we know how to do best. God will elevate us and teach us all we need to know. If you notice people who support you more are people who you barely know. Just like a few darlings dem deyh carry my business like say na their own and it hurts me when I see those I call my friends not doing same .

Pay for It

You know one thing we should always have in mind is the fact that you are a good person and  can give all information about your business to a stranger or a friend does not mean they'd do the same. You are you, and you know you. You don't know them. Don't be surprised when things don't go the way you think they should.

I've taught a lot of people my business, even people I didn't know. Infact I've even taken them to my dealer, introducing them as family. But guess what? When they break through and have a new strategies to improve the business they'd never let me in on it.

I'd advice you rather pay for that trade or stuff you wanna learn, than expect people to teach you willingly. You'd be disappointed at their action.

You told him to teach you how to earn from online sales and he's been forming busy for you🤣🤣😂😂😂😂😂🤣. Uncle he really isn't busy 🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪he just doesn't wanna teach you that's why he's doing you tantan😂😂🤪🤪🤪🤪😋😋😋😋😋.

We should learn to pay for certain things, better still, negotiate a kinda plan that'd benefit both of you in the absence of money.

I'd end by saying let's add value to what we do. And also let's bear in mind that for the fact you are good at heart don't mean every other person is. 🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀. Don't get your heart broken for no just reason🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♀. Love you guys

Who is a Feminist?🤗🤗🤗

In my last post I said I was going to explain who and what my own definition of a feminist is. Truthfully, there is a dictionary meaning of a feminist, but I wanna ask you who gave "feminist" a dictionary meaning?🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀.....  I am asking cause I don't know 😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.


Now for me I want to believe that some of us have also twisted the dictionary meaning of a feminist which, in my opinion, is so wrong.

According to an online contemporary English dictionary: A feminist is someone who supports equal rights for women.

Now society and internet has turned it to where women probably trample on their husbands, disrespect them by not being submissive and using feminism as an excuse for their wrong behaviours 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣. Instead of aunty to say she had a very bad upbringing she'd hide under the umbrella of feminism🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄.


In my own context, I am a strong feminist. And I'd break it down below. Just follow me and keep reading😁😁😁.

Some feminists say they haven't been heard. Well, I object. See what Proverbs 31:10 & 11says:  "A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. 11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value."
If he doesn't listen to you he doesn't have full confidence in you, simple.

A feminist is a hard working woman. She does things in alignment to God's word. She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar. She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants.
The Bible further buttressed the hard working woman by saying, she considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks. She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.

A feminist is so respectful that Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land unlike what we hear and see on the internet today. Once a woman is caught in infidelity by her husband or so or when she's displayed a very bad attitude towards her marriage the next thing we hear is her talking BS and claiming feminism❌❌❌❌❌.

A feminist is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”  A feminist is noticed and seen for her greatness in all of these mentioned and not for being disrespectful or for lack of submission. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised. Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

I will conclude by saying for me the best definition of who a feminist is or what ladies should follow  so they can be distinguished amongst other women is to follow the God definition of who a feminist is in Proverbs 31:10-31.
Please ladies let's not destroy our home or character with what we watch and see on the internet, let's not be deceived by what society dishes out. It's all a mirage, it isn't real and this isn't just for the married ladies alone but for all woman.

May God help us all

This isn't Feminism, just be human😏🙄

Ok so I got upset yesterday. How can you feel because you are the one bringing the most reasonable amount of money your word should be yes and amen😒😒😒😒.

First of all, guys I think we should learn to appreciate our siblings regardless of your position in the family. He may not be earning as much as you do, she may not be contributing so much, but let every little effort from the member of the family be appreciated.


Imagine someone having a notion that because he brings the money you should always cook 😒😒😒😒! And please brothers stop giving me the "So when you marry you'd give your husband the excuse of you going to work and coming back late😒😒😒" sermon. Let I and my husband worry about that😋😋😋😋😋😋😋.


You work, probably get a good pay. I hustle/do business, my money is not always a constant K like yours, both of us went to work and we are both human. Just like you can come back tired I can also come back tired. So getting upset bcos of food no follow at all 🙄🙄🙄🙄😒😒. And then using that "After all na me dey bring money" line no make sense.


In conclusion, let us learn to respect each other, brothers and sisters alike. Siblings always have this ish of 'see finish' or should I say using the power of seniority 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂, abeg who that one epp. No be other big brothers dey give their younger one money for upkeep and other things?

Please lemme oooo. Lemme come and be going 🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀ this has got nothing to do with feminism. In my next post I'd give you a good example or an explanation of what and who a feminist is. I mean my own definition and not what the society has made it become.

Love you guys. Stay blessed brothers and sisters, respect yourselves

It is my BUSINESS 🚶🚶🚶

 it is

I'd invest my time, energy, resources and know how to give you exactly what you want, sometimes exceeding your expectations and you'd be pricing me as if I am selling pepper or apple😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒.

Today's blog post is as a result of my conversation with one of my friends. And so I have decided to put words out.

To all entrepreneurs please learn to say NO to certain jobs🙅🏼‍♂🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♂🙅🏼‍♀. You cannot be doing a job with a profit of just five hundred naira (500) or one thousand (1000) this is crazy. If you do this you are demeaning your value.


It is your business, your dream, your source of livelihood and I want to believe you had a vision on where and how big you want it to grow. 🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀


It is time to flush some annoying clients/customers, yes flush them. If you know the worth of your business then don't settle for less🙅🏼‍♂🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♂. Do not go for little all in the name of "at all at all man must get job" 😒😒😒🙄🙄🙄 What's that? Trust me I did all of that and it got me nowhere 😒😒😒😒Infact I was going in circles until I decided to give myself brain.

Who says you won't get customers? If you are good at what you do, someone who's gonna appreciate your handwork will  stresslessly come to you.

I remembered when I was doing rubbish jobs I kept doing it cos I didn't wanna loose the small customers I had and I felt the small money coming in was something at least, until one day I charged a lady 10k for a very simple straight gown and she paid stresslessly 😱😱😱🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀. I just didn't wanna scream in front of her but e reach to scream 🤦🏼‍♀😱😱😱😱.
Ha, ha😱😱😱😱😱🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀ this aunty gave me 10k with out pricing for a simple gown, no design, no nothing. Anhan! I thought it was film, she collected the gown, gave me money and was like OMG! Wendy you did a nice job this is so neat. She asked if she could try it on. I said she could. She wore it, came in front of my mirror and was admiring herself. "This is exactly what I want thanks", she beamed.
"Thanks", I said, happy that she appreciated my work.

She went further saying "I saw some of your works on Instagram. I was skeptical but decided I'd try anyways, after all I've made something like this for 15k and I got bullshit". "Keep it up, you sow neatly", she concluded. I smiled, saw her off to the gate, came back to my house and was still in shock😱🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀😱😱.


That day I said to my self Choi Wendy you've been a foolish fool😂🤣🤣🤣🤣, see as you don dey rubbish your business since 🤣🤣🤣😂😂 dey collect 2k,3k with abeg😡😡😡😡. Kai the thing pain me.

That was the first time I made something for her and ever since then I became her customer, infact not just hers but also her friends she referred to me.


I also wanna advice you run away from customers who know your worth but feel without them you are nothing. They feel if they don't give you job, you no go chop😒😒😒.

I rather stay for days with no job than do a job with a profit of  500 or 1k.😒🙄😒 And if you are him or her don't cross my path😒😒😒😒.

May God bless the works of our hands and send us the right people we need for our businesses to grow. Amen

really so annoying how people will help us choose a price on a service we are rendering to them😡😡😡😡... It's really irritating.

The Unforseen Journey 😂

Yeah so you think marriage is like all the fantasies or the Telemondo and Zee world movies that you watch🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣? Common, relationship is not even like what we expect it to be talk more of marriage 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣.


You better don't go and marry with the hope that you'd be ATI, and your husband will be Yash😂🤣😂😂😂🤣😂.
You know that fantasy when he walks up to you asking you to be his girlfriend all those butterflies in your stomach, 🙄🙄🙄truth is before or should I say after 6month into the relationship e fit no be like that 🤦🏼‍♀🤦🏼‍♀🤦🏼‍♀Mostly when he sees the mother of his children in you. By that I mean mostly when he wanna marry you, he'd expect you to have sense and know what marriage entails.
Oftentimes because of our expectations or lack of knowledge about what marriage entails we go into it expecting to see a little bit of zeeworld and telemondo.

Don't expect him to stay home all day making sweet love to you, infact that won't happen so often after your honeymoon🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭, you know why? Uncle has to work to put food on the table😂🤣🤣🤣😂🤣🤣🤣. But come oooo that doesn't mean he doesn't love you. He sure does.

Truth is there's a lot of unforseen things that's going to happen in your marriage. When you start seeing all these things don't for a seconds think he doesn't love you or he has changed. Some certain kinda reality has dawned on him, some other things like responsibility also. Don't put pressure or complain, support him, defend him, love him and always pray for him and your home..🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼.
God will help us all.

Sorry for my late post I went Into my inner chambers, lol called my prayer room😁.
See you guys on Tuesday.

The Smart Ones

So you guys become really close doing almost everything together, as a lady you are crazy about him and he isn't saying anything and you've not seen him with a babe, cos he really gives you his attention, he cares for you but he's not saying anything like I want you to be my woman or she's always with you giving you the green card, doing what a girl lover does dor her man, you know like care for you, check up, brings you meal, infact una fit Don deyh 😘 😘 😘 and all of that yet when you told her you liked her and wants her to be your woman she said let's be friends for now.

Don't think these things happen to only the ladies it happens to the guy as well. Infact I think the rate at which ladies do these things this days due to greed is alarming. Sometimes these ladies could be in a serious relationship but because of what they are benefiting they'd rather play along with you praying they don't get casted.🤣😂😂😂😂😂😂 Orishirishi

If he is all around you doing what your man is supposed to do and yet he hasn't asked you out or anything give yourself brain and distance yourself 🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂, if you cannot ask him so what exactly are we doing. I heard ladies say they started a relationship by helping the guy ask which isn't bad but for me I think it reduces your respect. Don't get me wrong I said for me😒😒😒.

He hasn't come out straight to you on what you guys are, but he is enjoying the benefit of being your man and because you are madly in love with him you keep praying and waiting he says something, you keep hanging around infact you've marked him as your territory. Every guy that comes to you wouldn't stay because the other guy is everywhere all around you and they'd all feel you guys are dating but in the real sense na only you deyh date am.😂🤣😂😂😂🤣😂😂😂😂😂 The annoying thing about some of these guys when you bring it up they'd tell you but I told you I am not ready for a relationship..😒🙄🤣 which means they totally know what they are doing 🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀🙆🏼‍♀they are smart ass niggis😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂, seriously but I thought we are couple😓😭😭😭😭

You see for the ladies it takes so long till it Dawn on them that they have been wasting their time and it hurts so badly and this is because when a woman loves sometimes they love carelessly.

Ok let me not beat around the bush so much if he doesn't come out rightly to tell you what he want please do not get so attached to him, infact run🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏼‍♀🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂🏃🏽‍♂, because he's just gonna stand on the way for your man to enter yet he's not gonna walk through the door🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀🤷🏼‍♀very smart dudes. They prolly using you to pass time, forget or try letting go a heart break or so while you on the other hand is loving up so badly😓😓😓😓😢😢😢😢

Guys if you ask her out and she says let's be friends please move on🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏼‍♀🚶🏽‍♂🚶🏽‍♂🚶🏽‍♂ to the next lady that you like, I mean serious minded guys ooooo😒😒😒😒😒.


Let's stop putting our selves through unnecessary heart break. If you have to do it the old school way, let it be. Let him officially ask you out and you'd officially say yes and they'd know you guys are officially dating. Let's stop giving them the power to keep messing us up. Guys if you officially ask her out and she officially says let's be friends be her friend officially🤭🤭🤭🤭🤭 and go date another lady😒😒😒 do not stick around and be hoping she wee comman meet you and say ok I am ready for you now🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♀🙅🏼‍♂🙅🏼‍♂🙅🏼‍♂ date another lady and be happy😁😁

Also remember an official relationship can still be broken but at least you know you was in a relationship.

May God not let us come across time wasters in our life. Amen

I don't like his job😏🙄

So You are ashamed of what he does but not ashamed of the money he makes from what he does, that he spends on you. Isn't that silly?😒. So I asked a couple of people if they liked the kind of job their partner does. Shockingly, while a lot of the guys don't mind, most of the ladies said no. Then I asked this particular lady "Does he support you in his little way?" and she said "Ha the guy is trying o,  just that he stresses so much building blocks. And its a dirty job"
"So you prefer he steals or uses your pants or pad to do money ritual 😂🤣🤣🤣😂😂?" , I inquired further, rather sarcastically. "God forbid!", she retorted.

Now I asked a guy "What does your babe do?", He said, "she's a stripper". "Hmmmm🤦🏼‍♀ok do you trust her?" I pressed further. He said he trusts her just that he doesn't like the job. I asked "Can you pay all her bills if she stops the job?". His reply was "I don't think I can handle such responsibility". Yet you don't like her job.

Let's be honest with ourselves here. I do not think any job is embarrassing so long as it pays bills and it is legit. It is better to work with your hands for your daily bread than begging, stealing or doing ritual. And the truth is, not all of us will do white collar jobs.

I remember when I was so into my cleaning business. I couldn't afford to pay  too many workers so I did most of the jobs myself. One day, while on a job, this cute guy stopped by in his car and called me. I can be annoyingly unfriendly on a good day but when it comes to work I am the friendliest lady 🤪🤪Omo! Rising from the gutter i was cleaning, with my dirty gloves and all, I went to meet him. Who knows, this might just be an opportunity for my next job. Well, so i thought.
On getting close to the car, the next thing "Mr Cute" said was "Why is a pretty girl like you doing such a dirty job?".  Kai the thing pain. Just this once i tried to be polite, thinking it might bring me better fortune.

I said to him smiling "With due respect sir,  because this is how I make ends meet." Then i added "With all the money you think you have, you cannot pay my bills😒😊" .   Oh my gosh! The guys face turned purple 🤣😂😂😂😂he wanted to die. My last remark really pain am 😂🤣🤣🤣 "What's that supposed to mean?" He tried to fight back. "I can feed you and your family. Rubbish. Bullshit" 🤣😂😂😂😂I already achieved what I wanted so I went back to continue my work with rest of the boys, a smile of triumph on my face.

If what you do pays majority of your bills please keep at it no matter how little it is. It is better than stealing, prostituting, ritual, scam and all what not.

Have a great weekend folks!

"Too Busy"

I get so upset when i hear stuffs like "i am so busy",  because i know that no matter how busy you are you can always creat time for whats important or wetin hungry you.

Had this guy who was crushing on me sometime ago. But i didn't  have time for him. Sincerely i felt i was truly busy. I was working then. 

There was also this colleague of mine who kinda liked me, or should i say was tryna flirt with me. One day during lunch, he just appeared at my desk unannounced and uninvited. "Lets go and have lunch", he said, with a sheepish smile on his  face. Who no like awoof 🤪🤪?! Omo i touched up my face and entered front seat😁 (ladies you know that feeling na🤣😂😂😂😂😂, madam of the motor car...Lol). Anyways, we got to Shoprite Ikeja, ate and had ice cream and went back to work. The next day he sent me a mail asking if we could have lunch again. Guess what my response was. "Sorry dear, i am kinda busy." But when i saw him at the mall a few minutes later it dawned on me that there was nothing like i am busy.

It is either you don't like the person or the person isn't so dear or important enough  for you to spare a fraction  of your time for them.

If he or she cared they would reach out.  If he or she  loves you they will create time for you.  Do not get stupidly blinded as to giving useless excuses on his or her behalf. I hear ladies say,  "he's busy."  "We spoke  two days ago", "We spoke last week", "i guess work is so tideous" 🤣😂😂😂😂😂

Most of these guys i see in malls and eateries 🤣😂🤣 no be me go tell fada say him bear bear deyh burn😂🤣🤣🤣. When you have small change she was always around you but at the moment you are low in cash, all of a sudden you haven't seen her for two weeks and her excuse is that she's busy🤦🏽‍♀🤦🏽‍♀

Uncle lemme ask you: How did she create time for you when you had small change to buy her lunch and gifts? I don't wanna believe your sense is taking so long in the toilet 😒😒😒.

Aunty he was all around you when he was still trying to make you his babe. Infact you complain of no air to breath 🤣😂😂😂😂 "in chrisbrown voice" na him they chase you before but all of a sudden he's become so busy to even call you, talk more of seeing you,  or he calls when he likes or when he wants yansh🤦🏽‍♀🤦🏽‍♀🤦🏽‍♀🤦🏽‍. Sister its either he has realised you have a thick skull with nothing inside or he has gotten what he wants😔😔😞😞.


Don't get me wrong oooo , people can actually be busy ,  but in all that business they create time to call or see that special somebody in their life. I am busy i am busy when a bigger opportunity comes what happens is we create time so as to grab that opportunity.

Busy is a myth to me. People make time for the things that are important to them.


See you guys later
Much love
Ego😘😘😘

The Secret Provider

He comes back home late. Sometimes we don't even see him before bed time, then he leaves very early the next morning. Not understanding how hard daddy works to provide for us i would ask my mum "Mummy, why is daddy never around?" She would reply calmly "nne cos he has to work so he can have money to take care of you. I'd hiss and walk away. I really never understood what kind of work dad does that makes him leave the house early and come back home late.

"Mom, I haven't paid my school fees"
Mom: yeah I know. Not just you, your brothers too. But I'll come and pay all your fees tomorrow.

"Dad why do you always come back home late?"
Dad: I'm sorry kids there's been so much work to do these days and the traffic is crazy. Sorry kids I am so tired and I have to go to bed early cause Daddy has to be up early for work.

Daddy doesn't love us like mom does. He always wanna leave.

Mom: honey the kids haven't paid their fees, food stuffs is finished and the rent would expire in two weeks time.

Dad: Yeah I  had in mind to drop money for those yesterday but was too tired. I have the kids fees and money for the house keep. Please go to my bag you'll see two envelops, I wrote what each is for. Baby remind me today during my lunch time that I am supposed to pay rent so I can call the landlord and make the rent transfer.

Mom: thanks honey for all the care, for the sleepless nights just so you can provide for me and the kids..... We love you

Dad: Love you too baby

I wanna say a very big shout out to all the responsible dad's out there who have to work so hard to provide for their families, even when they know their absence hurts their kids but they have to do what they have to do to keep the family comfortable.

Mothers, kids of this generation are smarter and bolder. They speak up, unlike our time, when kids cant dare to express their displeasure to their parents. We should always let them know how much their dad loves them, let them know it is daddy who brings money for their fees and all those ice cream they lick and the new clothes they wear.

Even if you help your husband with some bills do not take his glory, let the kids know the role their dad plays, that way you will help them understand why he has to leave for work early and come back late and tired. If not these kids would build up their own walls around their dad...

My dad was the pillar of my family. Yeah mom helped out sometimes, but I understood how important his sleepless nights was for the family when he passed away.

He was "The secret provider" yet mom took all the credit cos when we want money for anything we go to her and she gives us. So we assumed it is hers not knowing what had transpired between mom and dad in our absence.

Moms, your job doesn't end at just bringing up the kids. Let them know the sacrifice their dad makes every day to make them have a comfortable home.

I dedicate this to every dad out there who put their families first and makes huge sacrifices to ensure that their families are comfortable. And to other dads who are not living up to their responsibilities, this is definitely time for a change.
I love you Dad... always.

Confused Fornicators😱

PIease i'm about to step on some people's toes.  But trust me my intentions are pure, I love you with my whole heart. I don't think everyone has the right to complain about cheating in their relationship. The only people who can complain about cheating are married couples.


The truth is, if we actually do the right things the rate of heart breaks and infidelity will reduce. Life they say is a teacher, but trust me when I say I wished I had to learn some things from other people's mistakes, rather than mine. Most of my own mistakes pierced my soul, but I thank God it shaped me to the woman I am today. I am not perfect, but God's grace is always sufficient and I intent to tap from it all the days of my life.

Ok so where were we? Ahan! let me give my own humble opinion on how to avoid hurts and heart breaks in relationships.

First of all, for me I think if you are not married you shouldn't assume the duties of a wife. Duties such as cooking, washing, sex/love making, representing him in events. You only represent your husband as two become one in his absence.

For the guys sex, sex and sex
Money** unless done willingly.

Ladies let me ask you before you started dating that guy who use to buy you bag? You, who does your toiletries? You, who gives you money for hair? You, who pays for your movies? You, you and you. Do not dump responsibility on a man who hasn't married you yet. That way you'd still be sane and in charge, you love him yeah, but with your head and heart. When you start having sex unconsciously you become a prostitute without even knowing. You sleep with him, he gives you money or you sleep with him when you ask for money he gives you paying you for your service and at this point If he doesn't give you unconsciously you become angry or upset because you feel because you are giving him your body he should give you whatever you ask aunty use your head. Then when you see him with another lady or you find out he is sleeping with another woman you become hurt, or guys when you find out she played you for your money you become heart broken. You have no right to feel that hurt because in the first place you weren't supposed to give your body and guys you wasn't supposed to give your money and if you both did that's trade by barter. Now you feel me🤦🏼‍♀😢.

If you are not married and having sex you guys are just confused fornicators. Let's do things right and we would see that the rate of heart break and all what not will reduce.
May God help us do not sin against our body. Amen

Marching Forward

Since my next post fell on March 1st, I wanna say, Happy new month to you all. Don't get discouraged if you haven't achieved anything yet, don't loose hope, we are just in the 3rd month of a new year, need I remind you that your story and life can change in just 5minites? Our timing and God timing isn't the same. Do not be wary for we are marching forward. God will make us the head and first always in all our endeavors.

And I speak and declare with God's given authority and power that in this month of March we will March forward in all that we do, we will posses our possessions, we will be fruitful in Jesus name. Amen.

From egogolden, we wish you a HAPPY NEW MONTH.

Single and Married

A lot of things, or should i say changes, happen with ladies at various stages of their lives. This particular one we will be delibrating on today is why people discard their single friends when they get married....

I was even gonna ask if there's any place in the Bible or constitution that says when a lady marries she should stop talking with or be close to her friends that are still single.

Out of curiosity I asked some random ladies and gentlemen and I got some response that made me laugh for almost a week whenever I remember it.
Here are the dialogues below:

Lady 1: After my marriage I stopped reaching out to my single friends because we are no longer in the same class. There is nothing for us to discuss anymore. They are not married and won't understand.

Me: Aunty understand what? Is there a place in the book you signed on your wedding day that says do away with your friends?

Lady 2: Oh well, for me my husband said he doesn't wanna see them around me. That when a woman marries she begins to make  new friends that are also married and understand marriage, know what it entails or have experience.

Me: Aunty please did you marry when you were still a teenager? I don't wanna believe you entered marriage naived.

Lady 3: Lol.....Golden see enh, I have crazy friends oooo, so it was just wise to keep them far, although I still hang out with them once in a while. I can't discard them entirely, they are my childhood friends. ******

Guy 1: Oh boy! I noticed after 5months of marriage that my wife and I were having. She had a problem with my friends. Golden you know how you women think na. She felt they will arrange babes for me. So instead of seeing her complain anytime I say I wanna go hangout with the guys I just cut it. I can't shout

Me: 🙃🙃🙃😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂Ok oooo.

Guy 2: Omo I cannot discard my friends oooo, because I am married. Before she came in as my wife me and these guys have been through the roughness of life. They also sponsored the wedding in one way or the order. No offense oooo, my friends, I and my wife, we are all friends. I do not think it is wise doing away with them just because my title changed from  M to Mr. Although I try to balance it ooo. I do not give my wife's time to them. Infact sometimes when I disturb her she reminds me I haven't hung out with the boys, just to give her some time to rest or so🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂

Me: hmmmm.


For me, I so not think we should do away with our friends just because we are married. It is ok not to be so close as before, which I still do not see the need for.

What changes after marriage? Yeah you would need space with your spouse, understandable, but that doesn't mean you should feel more important or superior to them just cause of that. I think we should just apply wisdom to this. It is those same friends you left you'd still run to when you have issues...

How can you have great, supportive, smart, intelligent single/childhood friends and you distance yourself from them just because you are married? Most of these friends that are single can still be of help to you in one way or the other. You are not an island. Your husband/wife cannot be the only person you relate or talk to.

I am not saying you should always hang out with your friends and neglect your marital duties. I am saying a friend built for long shouldn't be discarded just because of a "Marriage Title", because in my opinion nothing changed. May God give us the wisdom to do the right things.

This is my opinion though, what do you think?

Monologue On my eating habit

See me see wahala o. I posted an image on my status. A small plate of spaghetti o. Na him one of my friends on WhatsApp finish me. See below⬇️
Note: I have used a fictional name to protect the person's identity.

Bello: This woman. Only you coke, pizza, bread, ice cream... Indomie, suya ...eba, rice, spaghetti

Bello: So for now all these cabs dont find physical expression....?

Bello: Last last you jump a bus or two, treck a mile or two

Bello: Now you have delivery boys who deliver your goods

Bello: Until God blesses your hustle, you get a car, move to a new apartment

Bello: You dont go out too much except for fun

Bello: At first it is a chubby cheek then round ass, men are staring, your boobs are fuller boys are kicking stone committing lookrey

Bello: Then the stored cabs start to find expression

Bello: You think there is an incentive so you eat some more. One morning you wake up to a nasty bulge on your tommy

Bello: You have an unwanted pregnancy... but there is no baby

Bello: You think a fast will sort it, or an exercise here will trim it

Bello: Some mean guy makes jest of you and calls you fatty or biggy bele

Bello: You get livid. You tell your boyfriend because he asked how your day went

Bello: Then he says, "well baby,  pele dear, but you need to  watch your weight"

"What do you mean,am I fat?"  You become apprehensive he apologises..

You are depressed and you begin to get defensive as a means of coping...

We eventually become what we eat...

Orobor no be enjoyment

Me: 😂🤣🤣🤣😂 What's my crime now.. shey I should not eat again?😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

So whats the moral of this story?
The thing is, we should watch what we eat. Trust me, alot of ladies have lost their homes to slay mamas because they forgot how they looked before they got married, or should I say they got so relaxed and ate whatever passes simply because they feel they have completed their God given assignment to multiply🤣😂😂😂😂.

What I don't even understand is how some bloat after given birth. Please ladies let's watch what we put in our mouth and also endeavor to workout.

Having a healthy and beautiful body comes with its own sacrifices.

Your Worth

The economy of Nigeria has made it so difficult for us to act our worth. These days depression has been the order of the day. We have lost our self worth so much that we value our self less than we truely are worth.

We tend to feel less important or less beautiful if we don't get compliment from orders.... Stop there,  who told you that you cannot compliment yourself?

Everyone wants to be noticed, successful at al. Some people have this mentality that you are only recognized by your wealth. Says who? There are lots of billionaires and trillionaire in Nigeria that we don't even know.

Knowing your worth is you knowing who you are, what you are capable of doing and believing in yourself. Why let irrelevant things borther you? Why let things that don't matter make you depressed?

For those of us in business. When you know your worth, you would not beg a customer/client to patronise you. You have a standard. Maintain your standard and don't go lower just because of Nigeria economy. If he/she wouldn't pay the right amount for your product/services let them go. Don't reduce your self, because when you do, standing on that standard will be difficult.

Truth is, when you start going below your standard you will keep going below it.

Ladies if he hits you in a relationship please take a walk. Leave the relationship. Leaving the relationship isn't a weakness, it is you realising your worth. Don't let him fool you with "I love you that's why I hit you..." 😒👿 Seriously you can't be that stupid 😒. If he doesn't treat you right leave and same goes to the guys.
Over time I realised that when we choose to be matured, we begin to think right, realising how stupid or foolish we have been in the past and correcting the errors. At this stage you are beginning to know your worth.

Who says you need alot of friends to survive? All you need is the right friend and your worth is what attracts them.

Never let anyone talk you down, do not give no one the power to steal your happiness. You have the right to be happy. Not even Nigerian economy has the right to take it from you.

Some of us keep saying "country hard" yet businesses are growing, companies are growing. Look for means to add value to people in exchange for money and know your worth. Stand with your head high and tall, walk upright with your shoulders high, build yourself, it isn't pride, it is knowing your self - worth

I believe I am speaking to someone at this point, I believe I am helping someone come out of his or her depression. We are blacks, we are Africans and we are strong.

Valentine's Day

Hey you there where are you going to? My friend go home joor so because you heard February 14th is Valentine's day you have decided to go and give your body out in place for what?  An iPhone? Hmmmm ok oooooo, I can imagine how long you have been planning to scam that guy, you don't love him but you have been playing along and planning Feb 14...in jenifas voice' Wehdon sir, Wehdon ma.

Valentine's day is a day set aside to show love to others not to open your legs for him because he promised you a car, an iPhone or some money.
Ladies be wise. What even hurts me most is that some young girls decide to loose their diginty on Val's day what for? An item that depreciates how sad forgetting that if they are not lucky by November they'd be a mother😂🤣😂🤣🤣 or get infected or so.

Guys don't be dumb, you are planning to spend all your savings just to impress a lady on Val's day hmmm your own stupidity is still trekking to Asorock. We miss the reason for the celebration. If you don't know what to do I would tell :
1. You can take some cloths, provisions and money to the motherless baby home
2. You can visit the hospital, see people in the wards, so you can be grateful to God for each air you breath.
3. Visit the cell, you have been doing little shaddy shaddy things and you go free, in there you'd see innocent people wasting.
4. Visit your friends, your family or go to the hospital for a general check-up Etc

Wife if your husband didn't take you out today or buy anything for you, don't be sad, instead cook him a delicious meal after all you guys have forever to each other, let one day celebration that isn't even your own celebration cause an issue in your home after all celebration of love is supposed to be an everyday thing not a once in a year thing, so don't worry.

Husbands if your wife didnt buy you anything or do anything special don't make it a big deal... She could be fagged out with the kids and work, so far as you know she loves you and she shows it. Valentine's days shouldn't have so much effect as to cause turbulence in your home.

We are supposed to show love to others every single day not just one day in a year. And if Val's day is a big deal for you, I wanna ask what then happens to the remaining days that isn't Valentine's day? Don't work your self up, or better still take your self out who says you cannot spend your money on your self! Do what makes you happy, go to the movies if you want, or any where you know they prepare your special delicacy. Just be happy Sha.... Las Las ama wa alright. 😀😍



With love from me.
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!

Do you have it all?

It's annoying how we deliberately seek things we cannot give, what am I even saying?? things we don't have… Yet we all know, you cannot give what you don't have.

I asked a guy, “Why don't you want to settle with Cassandra?” and he replied “because she's not tall, and she’s not as curvy as I want my woman to be.” I laughed so hard when he said that and I said to him “uncle take a good look at yourself, you that you’re 6months pregnant you are looking for hour glass shape, how about you look by example.” LMAO.

Not just the guys alone, I also asked a lady why she declined a guy she said “he doesn't have the kind of money I want, he has pot belly, and he is not as tall as I would have loved him to be.” After hearing this I started looking for where to faint  😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣. This lady in question has a fat tummy, as in lower big tummy, and terrible knock kneels.

I do not understand the problem with some people... I can understand the special preference, maybe because you’re short, you look for someone who is tall, so you won’t produce dwarfs… But I don’t understand when some ladies say: I need a guy who has packs, who is tall, cute, sexy, romantic, and above all, have money…. Sister!! let me ask, do you have the kind of money you want? Infact, does your father have the kind of money you expect him to have? You better take your time!

Guys una own can be so annoying you'd be looking for a lady with an athletic body, very tall, curvy, sexy, must be poise, good educational background blah blah blah... you for kuku say you want marry oyibo woman. Some guys will say she is not petit, I like petit ladies so I can carry her around. Lol uncle Weldon you will tell me if she be hankerchief wey dem dey carry around. Let me ask, do you have some of the qualities you are looking for? Infact does your sister posses all these qualities? Let us be reasonable.

There is so much more to the passage that says " He who finds a wife" some of these single ladies and gentlemen between the age of 37-45 have actually found, but they are looking for something else forgetting the scripture says "He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour from the Lord" Proverbs 18:22

There's heavenly favor attached with marriage, as long as your wife is a good thing!
God bless us all and help us through life's journey.

Her wedding Ceremony

This is what I think; some ladies aren't being fair to guys, by the kind of wedding they want. What they fail to realise is that after the wedding ceremony comes the marriage, and that's the most ‘importanter’ Lol if I must use that.

Meet a lady, and ask where she wants to do her wedding? you'd hear ‘if possible I'd love to do it in Paris, London, Dubai or another foreign country, I'll want top musicians to grace my day, blah blah blah….'

Some other ladies would tell you I want a big wedding with 1,000 guests, caterers everywhere, infact it will be buffet (serve your self), my wedding gown will be made by the best and most popular fashion designer, and so on….

Lastly, let me ask you ladies what happened to doing a simple wedding with just 50guests in attendance? This is one of the reasons why alot of ladies stay single for a long time, and that extravagant wedding they want would end up being a parlor wedding.

Ladies let us be reasonable... Redeem standard says if he has a house, a bed, gas or stolve, and has a job(I mean a steady source of income) if he says he wants to marry you and you love him, grow with him. I know we want a rich man, a man who is already established but marriage and life isn't about marrying the rich man it is about marrying the man you love, cherish, respect, adore and can make the Lord of your home just like Christ is for the church.

Most ladies don't mind having a very big wedding and drinking Garri or having huge debts to settle. Mind you, those people you want to please will not live with you and your husband they'll eat your rice, drink your wine, they may not even spray money or give any gifts.

The type of Wedding ceremony you do doesn't show or tell how your marriage would be.
Let's be wise. God help us all

Pastors stay Woke!!!

I am not going to sugar coat the way churches or should I say the way pastors have choosen to run the house of the Lord. How will you say you want to do a program called "feed the poor" when poor people plenty for your church.

The church is not a charity organization yeh that's true I get that,  but don't forget those people come into the house of the Lord beliving they would be met at the point of there need one way or the other. It is high time the church system changes and become the original plan of what God wants a church to be.

I am not against tithing, offerings and the likes what I am against is the church not using it's funds to help it's members. Truth is God don't come at night to pick all the money made in services from churches at night neither does he send his angels to come and take all the money, he doesn't need it, he owns all things, the heavens and the earth and everything therein belongs to him what then does churches do with the money?

Imagine members of a church trekking to church or Bible studies and when they seek help from church through their pastor, the pastors tells them to "Have Faith", Excuse you stop telling a hungry man it is well, give him food first before anything. Let us be real and honest I am tired of some eyeservice some churches do, they will organise programs where they will snap pictures of them in horrible and terrible places, make videos of how they go to the poorest places in Lagos to give them cloth and food where as their member is suffering, don't have food to eat or cloths to wear.

Annoyingly some are so angry with churches that instead of winning souls we are loosing souls. Some church members would rather prefer to ask an unbeliever or a random person for help instead of asking the church which is bad. We keep saying our government is the reason for high corruption rate and prostitution but I want to tell you the church has also played a great role in that.

Imagine this scenario a lady goes to her church pastor with financial issues that just one of the pastors can handle himself pleadings they help with her school fee and the church/pastor says have faith God is about to do something and they just pray with her and leaves, do you wanna tell me if a married man sees her on the road asked what the problem is, she tells him and he says he will give her, her school fee if she sleeps with him, do you think she wouldn't succumb or think about it? Most guys are now desperate, look at the pant thingy trending, jigolos everywhere. Churches and pastors should better stay woke.

It is breaking my heart that the place where some people come to find help and peace is where hatred, greed and politic is most displayed.
God help us.

Last Infidelity

Anytime I think about some of the experiences I have had I sit back and burst into laughter and I thank God for his wisdom cause in the first place there wasn't no way I would have known.

Their new scheme/tactics, is them coming up with stuffs like I want a serious relationship that would lead to marriage. Or my last girlfriend left cause she isnt ready to settle down. Ladies if he walks up to you and tell you he broke up with his ex girlfriend be sure to do you own findings deeply, what he's looking for is his last PREY at least before he marries, trust me you don't wanna...... and the same goes to the guys, be sure to do your findings.

See ladies and gentlemen that last food you wanna eat could destroy the home you have been planning and praying to build. If you are in a relationship please stick to your woman/man. If you are planning to get married how about you stay faithful to that woman you wanna spend the rest of your life with. Do you know how many new home has been broken due to "Last infidelity" or last supper? Ladies you all be trying to go wild and crazy before you finally get married pray your last supper don't get obsessed with your sex styles or fall in love with you because if he does you are in deep trouble.

Have you ever thought or asked deeply why people divorce after 5month of being married? Yeah so many reasons of which one of them is that, the lady he slept with a month to his wedding or on his bachelor eve shows up saying she's carring his baby! Are you shocked nah, I bet you've heard that before..... Or that her first child isn't her husband's baby but the last guy she slept with before she got married.

That last supper could be the beginning of your doom, that last Infidelity could be the beginning of your suffering in your marriage. Mind you that last supper/infidelity could be the beginning of your torment and torture. Imagine your last infidelity is or was with a physco, you are finished he/she will torment you, blackmail you, drain you. Question now is do you wanna go through this emotionally torment instead of enjoying your new union?

In conclusion i advice us to quit that Last infidelity you have planned it'd only lead to your doom. I feel this message is for someone. Take heed lest you'd fall

God help us all.

Dont Be so Hard

You didn't see it coming he used you/she used you.. yeah and so what? He/she's been cheating on me, he/she broke my heart I will never trust any man/woman, Honey get a grip of your self don't be so hard on yourself. The guy I got pregnant for abandoned me, sweetheart the baby is a product of your true and genuine affection. Love the baby and be happy. I am from a broken home and it hurts me, how about you try loving your self and praying so your own home don't get broken like your parent instead of eating and beating your self up. Cut yourself some slack

No matter what you must have gone through be happy you still stand, be happy you ain't where you use to be, be happy all the hurts, pains, experience has made you a stronger and better person. I suffered to get to where I am, yeah it's alright ease up, those experience shaped you in line to what you need to be in the position you are now.

Please take your self out, you deserve it. Buy what you can afford that isn't gonna stress your pocket, you deserve it. Get a life, live the life, have fun, get a job or a hobby, do what you love doing just be happy. If you are a single mom, love your baby stresslessly and unconditionally with or without her father's presence.

You deserve to be happy don't let anyone take that away from you.

Curb your Taste

So yeah I am going to speak a harsh truth today.
Ladies and Gentlemen it is high time we do not let greed take the better part of us. It is only greed that'd make you want what you know you cannot afford and don't need. I would even say cut your coat according to your size anymore you gotta cut your coat according to your material.

Let us learn to be contented with what we have while we aspire and work toward getting or achieving more for ourselves. I am tired of hearing ladies tell me 'Gold' there was no other option or telling me I had to give in to take care of my family, excuse you there are and you had alot of options you just choose the one you felt was the easy way out. How about getting a sales girl job? How about buying and selling? How about cleaning people's houses? Oh they sound like dirty job right ok ooooo. Guys you can do factory jobs, sales boy, learn a trade there's always a way without having to settle for the bad things.

I am also tired of hearing guys say Gold I had to do what I had to do. What explanation do you give for a guy whose still under his parents custody, whose parent still fend for at age 15 even in secondary School already engaging in fraud just so he can feel among when he's with his rich friends. We all wanna be able to afford what we want but we have to also bear in mind that our taste should be in line with our financial capacity.

Yes let your taste be in accordance to your financial capacity, let what you want be in the daily, weekly, monthly or quarterly budget of what you can afford and when you can afford it. Do not throw away your destiny or future jusy for the now enjoyment. God will see us through.

Tell No One

Hey, have you noticed that when you let alot of people in on what you intend doing or what you intend achieving it flops? You got to learn the pattern that works for you. Yeah I know out of excitement we tend to tell people what we wanna do before we do it. This is me being honest with you all, tell no one what you wanna do till you have done it what ever it maybe unless of course you are married and your spouse supports you in everyway.

Do not think because they are your best friend they are always gonna be happy with all your achievements even blood envy themselves talk more of friends. The truth is when something big wanna happen for you and you tell someone who you think loves you and the person begins to envy you or emits a negative thought towards that thing often times it ends up not happening. That is why you'd always hear stay away from negative people.

Like I said follow the pattern that works for you... If you use to tell people things you wanna do before you do them and it flops then "TELL NO ONE" when you want to do something, or when there's a major thing happening in your life. Truth is when you tell them, you'd think they are happy for you, when it flops you'd think they feel bad or sorry it didn't but they happy.

Follow the pattern and "tell no one" let them see the achievement. It pays to live a private life, you don't have to tell everyone everything. Keep it to yourself, love you, do you, live your life and be happy. The only ones who can hurt you are the people closest to you.

If you feel like talking and wanna tell someone about what's happening in your life trust me God is a good listener and his intentions and thoughts for you is always of Good.

Love you.
Egogolden

   

Look at your Mate

How are you all doing? What's on your mind? You know this statement 'Look at your mate' has made people do things they wouldn't do naturally. I think it is time we do thing within the pace God has allowed us to be, there isn't any need to rush after all drops of water makes a river or ocean.

Never compare your self to anyone no mater what. You may be same age and he is successful, you may be older than her and she is married with kids, you may be twenty five (25) or above thirty  and be having your first degree it doesn't matter. Remember it isn't about how far but how well. That you are where you are doesn't mean no good will come out of your slow process.

Ladies do not let this statement 'Look at your mate' destroy you, don't go with another woman's man out of desperation, don't marry a man you don't love or want because you feel your biological clock is ticking. Pastor bolaji idowu of HICC would always say if your biological clock is ticking take out the battery. Never settle for less in anything be patient and your own will locate you stresslessly.

Gentlemen do not let the statement 'look at your mate' make you dip your hand in bad things, do not hurt a woman's emotion because you want her money,  yeah I know we wanna be rich and successful how about you work, learn a trade or something to make clean money, you don't even have to do Yahoo, fraud to be successful. I know a guy who graduated with first class he started life by working in a factory doing shifts just to make money and some other people who started with nothing. Start little and the sky will be your limit. Go and ask all the millionaires and billionaire they will tell you how long it took them to get to where they are now, they all started little don't be decieved there is nothing like quick money. Even  blood money isn't guaranteed plus you'd be given number of years to enjoy the money so what's the point.

How about you go through the process, make your money legally and morally and enjoy the fruit of your labour. Nobody is saying it will be easy, but it will be worth it and you'd have a story to tell that'd also help others.
Always be legit, moral and true to yourself. Do not let  the statement 'Look at your mate' make you loose your self or forget who you truely are.

 In everything let God come first.
God bless you.